Monday, November 11, 2013

Dining Etiquette {cheat sheet}

Most of us don't have more than a 5-piece place setting, or more than a 5-piece flatware set. In fact, when I tell friends and family that I want to register for china, they all scoff "Are you sure you want to register for china?! You'll never use it!"

Well, I am just the kind of gal who will not only register for china, but I will use it!

And Thanksgiving, and the following holiday season are just the time to use it too! So if you are hosting, bring out your fancy dinnerware, and set a nice table! And if you are not hosting, here are some tips on which piece of silverware to use for which course...just in case you are attending a fancy Thanksgiving. 

Kate Spade "Chapel Hill" China Collection

The plates will usually be set according to how many courses there are. So if there is a soup bowl, and a salad plate, there is sure to be a soup course and a salad course. Again, in this day and age, we may not all be having the type of fancy Thanksgiving dinners in which there will be separate courses. But, nonetheless, if you have a soup bowl, and a salad plate, then use them. There is no need to slop everything on to your entree plate when there is a perfectly good plate already set out for those other parts of the meal.

Lennox stemware, Eternal Gold collection.

Another thing that you may encounter is a seemingly countless number of glasses in front of you. Probably as many as four. Often in multi-course meals, you will use each of these classes. The white wine glass for the poultry or fish course, the red wine glass for the red meat or main course, and the champagne glass for dessert and toasting of course. The fourth glass is your water glass which you will use throughout the dinner. But again, if you are having a more all-in-one type of Thanksgiving, the glasses will all be set in order to give you the choice of which wine you would like to be served.

Kate Spade, Grace Avenue flatware collection.

And finally the flatware. In case you didn't learn from Pretty Woman like I did, you use the silverware from the outside piece to the inside piece. And it's as simple as that!

Later on in our Thanksgiving series we will go over some ways to add some fun to your formal Thanksgiving table, so keep an eye out for that!

I am so thankful to have been raised by such a loving group of parents. Each of them has taught me so many wonderful life lessons, that resonate with me every day. Thanks Mom, Dad and Mr. Jay!


  1. I *LOVE* a formal table!! I'd do it every day/night if the Knight would put up with it.

  2. I don't set a formal table, but I do use my china often! Love it and have tons. That KS you pictured is stunning, but I've seen some fabulous china at yard and estate sales in your neck of the woods. I would have bought it and shipped it home, well you know, if I wasn't with Mr. J at the time. You should check that out for an inexpensive way to get a complete set! g